For The Daily Prompt: To Be Resolved
It’s that fateful time of year again that we look back and check off our accomplishment scorecard. Did we achieve want we wanted to in the last 12-months? Did we at least get closer to what we perceive as both an improbability, but in the very least a slight chance of success?
Resolutions – they are like the debilitating, monkey on our back. They start out as wonderful and practical ideas that defy all odds, but then quickly come crashing back down to earth.
Why is that? Is it because we try to “bite off more than we can chew?” Excuse the cliche, but sometimes a cliche fits perfectly, so I defy the grammar police and go ahead and use it anyway.
Personally, I feel that the problem with resolutions and why they fail so much is in the meaning of the word itself.
Let’s examine this theory:
res-o-lu-tion: the act of finding an answer or solution to a conflict, problem, etc., the act of resolving something
From the outset, we have a problem, and usually it’s the type of problem that we don’t want to admit to or resolve. Sometimes we are ashamed of the problem and try our best to make-believe it does not exist.
There’s problem number one. The word itself reminds us of our problem. It is like the nagging spouse or the critical boss. It’s a direct attack on our sensibilities and our self-esteem. So it quickly becomes a whole “zaibatsu” of problems.
So we ignore the problem, try to reduce it or don’t work very hard at all to find a solution.
Here’s problem number two: The word resolution gives promise to the reality that there is a solution to the problem.
Sometimes there isn’t. Other people may tell you otherwise, but that’s easy for them to say because they aren’t the ones who have to deal with the problem.
Some problems have no solution – they simply are and will always be there no matter how hard we try to get rid of them. Anyone who has been married for a long time and is not happy anymore will understand this reasoning.
The point I’m trying to make here is that when we label something as a problem from the beginning, it becomes harder to encompass. Therefore, maybe it would be better to label it as something else that describes it on a more positive note or makes it easier to achieve.
For instance, instead of saying my New Year’s resolution is to stop smoking, it might be better to say “I’m going to save more money.” Now that’s positive, and it takes the problem itself away and sets a goal.
Smoking is expensive and bad for your health, right? So if you stop smoking you feel better and get richer.
Are you following me?
Probably not, but at least you now have a different method of dealing with the dreaded resolution.
It’s not you – it’s the word itself.
Find another word to use.
Lose the word “resolution” and become successful!
Joseph E. Rathjen is a freelance writer and an Opinion Writer at 1World Online – America’s Fastest Growing Social Research Engine.