Published By: 1World Online
When I was young, my father taught me to always open a door for a woman. That was a long time ago when there was no such thing as gender-equality, and full-blown feminism. Times are different now, and gender-equality has all but misconstrued the good intentions of men. Unfortunately, lots of women no longer view the kind act of a man as a respectful one, but instead view it as a demeaning-deed that diminishes a female’s stature in society.
Opening a car door for a woman or any door for that matter, is something a man should do automatically. That may sound old-fashioned, but there are some things in life that should never change, and showing respect to women is one of them.
When a man opens a door for a woman, pulls out a chair for her or carries her grocery bags, he is simply showing that he is gentleman. It does not mean that he views the woman as inferior or one who is three rungs below him on the social ladder.
There are, however, some instances when a man should not attempt to open a car door for a woman. One is when the car is parked tightly between two other cars. By trying to squeeze yourself between the car door, the woman and the other car you will make yourself look like an idiot and cause an uncomfortable situation. Another time is when the woman makes it very clear that she would like to open the door by herself.
What some women do not understand is that many men still observe age-old tactics with car door opening skills to tell if a woman genuinely likes him or not.
For instance, in the movie, “A Bronx Tale,” Chazz Palminteri (Sonny) tells Lillo Brancato (“C”) how to tell if a woman is sincere or if she is selfish. After he tells C to open the passenger door for her he tells him to see if she leans over and unlocks the driver door for him.
Sonny tells C, “If she doesn’t reach over and lift up that button…that means she’s a selfish broad. You dump her and you dump her fast.”
Although Sonny’s method was a bit extreme, it does show how the simple act of opening a car door can mean different things to both a man and a woman.
“Can I get that door for you?” Is the safest way most experts agree to find out how a woman stands on that issue.
If she says, “Yes, thank you,” then you know she believes that chivalry is not dead.
If she gives you a resounding, “NO, I GOT IT!”… Good luck!
Joseph E. Rathjen is a freelance writer and an Opinion Writer at 1World Online – America’s Fastest Growing Research Engine.