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When I was young, my father taught me to always open a door for a woman. That was a long time ago when there was no such thing as gender-equality, and full-blown feminism. Times are different now, and gender-equality has all but misconstrued the good intentions of men. Unfortunately, lots of women no longer view the kind act of a man as a respectful one, but instead view it as a demeaning-deed that diminishes a female’s stature in society.

Opening a car door for a woman or any door for that matter, is something a man should do automatically. That may sound old-fashioned, but there are some things in life that should never change, and showing respect to women is one of them.

When a man opens a door for a woman, pulls out a chair for her or carries her grocery bags, he is simply showing that he is gentleman. It does not mean that he views the woman as inferior or one who is three rungs below him on the social ladder.

There are, however, some instances when a man should not attempt to open a car door for a woman. One is when the car is parked tightly between two other cars. By trying to squeeze yourself between the car door, the woman and the other car you will make yourself look like an idiot and cause an uncomfortable situation. Another time is when the woman makes it very clear that she would like to open the door by herself.

What some women do not understand is that many men still observe age-old tactics with car door opening skills to tell if a woman genuinely likes him or not.

For instance, in the movie, “A Bronx Tale,” Chazz Palminteri (Sonny) tells Lillo Brancato (“C”) how to tell if a woman is sincere or if she is selfish. After he tells C to open the passenger door for her he tells him to see if she leans over and unlocks the driver door for him.

Sonny tells C, “If she doesn’t reach over and lift up that button…that means she’s a selfish broad. You dump her and you dump her fast.”

Although Sonny’s method was a bit extreme, it does show how the simple act of opening a car door can mean different things to both a man and a woman.

“Can I get that door for you?” Is the safest way most experts agree to find out how a woman stands on that issue.

If she says, “Yes, thank you,” then you know she believes that chivalry is not dead.

If she gives you a resounding, “NO, I GOT IT!”… Good luck!


Joseph E. Rathjen is a freelance writer and an Opinion Writer at 1World Online – America’s Fastest Growing Research Engine.

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10 thoughts on “Why Men Should Always Open A Car Door For A Woman

  1. I’m a huge fan of chivalry. Growing up in Germany you are surrounded by males that

    a) never pay for a drink and make sure to say really loud “SPLIT THE BILL PLEASE” at the end of a date and
    b) don’t open the door for you and don’t even hold it open when they see you coming

    I moved to England when I was 19 and, oh my god, what a difference! Gentlemen everywhere, making you compliments, holding the door open for you even when you’re far away, buying you a drink because they enjoy their conversation with you.

    Chivalry is definitely not dead, but non-existent in other countries and perhaps the reason is that women don’t want it in Germany? I have no idea.

      • By the way, I always thought about visiting Germany one day (I’m German.) if I do, which of the places in Germany are the best for tourists? I would live to see a few, old German castles. Rathjensdorf will be my first stop of course.

        • Oh wow, I had no idea! Well, your name sounded a bit German but it doesn’t usually mean that the person is, too. Did you grow up in Germany? Where do you live now? In terms of where to go and what to see – I am completely biased in saying you should stick to the east of Germany :-p Where I am from, Dresden, is a beautiful city and lots of castles to visit nearby. There’s the Zwinger, Schloss Moritzburg, Meissen (where the famous porcelain was invented) and many more.. here’s a list: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_castles_in_Saxony
          Apart from that you can also visit Potsdam and castle Sanssouci, plus it’s really close to Berlin. Sadly most people just go to Munich, Hamburg or Berlin but there’s loads more to see.

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